How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

Want a Healthy, Masculine Man? Avoid These 10 Mistakes

I’m speaking to the ladies today, sorry guys. But feel free to read along. Your thoughts and input are welcome in the comment section and in the chat!

Ladies,

If you’re seeking a lasting relationship with a healthy, marriage-minded, masculine man, it’s essential to not just understand what to look for in him—but also what to avoid doing yourself.

Over the years, I’ve helped countless women stop attracting low-value or emotionally unavailable men and start creating real results with the kind of man they actually desire.

But first? We have to stop the self-sabotage.

Here are 10 common behaviors that push good men away—even if you’re doing them with the best intentions.

1. Show up late, take the lead, and grab the bill.

While confidence is attractive, signaling a lack of respect for his time, taking control of the interaction, or assuming the traditionally masculine role can feel more competitive than collaborative. A high-quality man wants to feel appreciated and valued for showing up with intention—not sidelined by someone trying to lead the date like a business meeting.

2. Rush into sex to spark connection.

When physical intimacy comes before emotional safety and commitment, it short-circuits the natural process of building trust. While it may feel like a shortcut to closeness, it often leads to confusion and imbalance, especially for men who take commitment seriously.

3. Choose chemistry over aligned values.

Yes, sparks are exciting. But if you mistake intensity for intimacy, you risk building a relationship on shaky ground. Passion alone can’t sustain long-term partnership. Marriage-minded men are looking for someone who shares their values, life vision, and priorities.

4. Talk about your ex—or worse, compare him.

Bringing up past relationships too soon signals you’re not emotionally available. And comparing him to someone from your past makes him feel judged, not genuinely seen. A healthy man wants to feel like he’s building something fresh with someone trustworthy and faithful—not competing with your history.

5. Lead with your résumé, not your heart.

You’ve worked hard to achieve your goals—but your credentials don’t create emotional safety. Healthy masculine men are drawn to warmth, softness, and receptivity. They want to know who you are, not just what you’ve accomplished.

6. Hide your feelings—unless it’s to complain.

When you suppress your vulnerability but speak up only to criticize, it creates emotional distance. True connection requires openness, not guardedness. A good man won’t beg for your approval or fight to feel close—he’ll retreat if the emotional environment feels unsafe.

7. Ignore your needs to seem “chill.”

Downplaying your desires or boundaries in hopes of seeming low-maintenance actually leads to confusion and disconnection. Healthy men respect women who are clear, grounded, and self-aware—not those who abandon themselves to maintain the illusion of ease.

8. Chase him instead of letting him pursue you.

Over-functioning flips the polarity and makes a man feel unnecessary. Feminine energy naturally invites—it doesn’t chase or convince. When you step into the pursuer role, you take away the space for him to step up.

9. Expect 24/7 attention via text.

Constant communication is not a sign of connection—it’s often a sign of anxiety. If you rely on a man to soothe you with immediate responses or emotional support early on, it can overwhelm him and signal emotional unavailability.

10. Pressure him to commit based on your timeline.

A marriage-minded man wants to commit—but he also wants the freedom to choose it intentionally. When you apply pressure to meet milestones rather than building genuine emotional alignment, you turn the relationship into a transaction, not a partnership.

Here’s the good news:

These are learned patterns, not permanent flaws. And they can be unlearned and replaced with healthier, more effective approaches that invite the kind of love you’re truly ready for.

If you’re tired of attracting low-value or mismatched men—and you feel like time is slipping by—I can help.

In 1:1 coaching, I’ll help you see through your blindspots and patterns, gain clarity on your weaknesses and your needs and develop the emotional and relationship skills needed to create the connection you deeply desire.

Apply for coaching today (click to book a call) and take the first step toward aligning with the love you’re ready to receive.

Warmly,

Taylor

The Vetting Specialist™

Dating & Relationship Coach for Conservatives